LETTERS

Appeal & Reply

These are two actual letters exchanged between two wives through CONTACT. They are reproduced here because I feel they might be helpful to others. Actual names are withheld to avoid identification, but thanks are due to both GGs for permission to print them.

Dear.

ED.

Frankly, I need some help, a push toward a better understanding of both my husband/girlfriend and myself. Since "she" wrote to Virginia asking for help, we have made some progress, but not enough. I must admit that I've been pretty antagonistic and we have had some rather violent arguments.

Virginia volunteered that you might help us by an- swering some of my questions, but the questions won't mean much unless you have some background. We have been married six years this December, and have one boy age 3. My husband is a representative for a New York stationer, and we are relatively comfortable financially for our age. I'll give him credit for one thing, our son is just as rough as a boy can be without being a bully, and I'm glad.

As for "her" background, I'll try to be brief, but it may be impossible. Prom ages I through 23, about all I know is what I've been told, from there on, some first hand and still some I had to be told. She was an only child, and a girl was wanted, although she didn't know this until her teens. Her name was to have been Rachel. She was kept in dresses only until the age of one. Her Mother gave her a girl's education which she retains to this day. She loves to cook, keep house, and just finished making a dress. She was persecuted by other children up until high school age when her body took on some not so boyish curves and she decided to go completely "under- ground" as the law of the jungle demanded. Unfortunately

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